I couldn’t keep my discretion to myself. I told Twin what happened with my old friend. Twin was clearly hurt and quietly upset, but handled it well. I almost thought maybe I hadn’t needed to even tell him, such was his quiet demeanor. He asked a few basic questions, Was that Thursday when I couldn’t reach you? Was that pack of cigarettes I asked you about his?
All of which I answered honestly: Yes, yes, yes…. I’m so sorry. I really feel horrible. I’m sick to my stomach. You deserve much better. So on and so on.
And Twin kept saying, we don’t have to talk about this right now. I would respond, I’ll lose my nerve if we don’t. I just feel so dirty and ashamed.
I felt even more like trash when I texted my friend and told him how guilty I felt for what had happened and that I’d felt my boyfriend deserved to know. And my friend responded, WHAT?!!! I wasn’t aware you were still dating him. You didn’t mention it so I assumed you weren’t seeing him anymore or I never would have gone so far. I was hoping to keep seeing you, I just wanted to take it slow because there are kids involved. I really like being with you, sexually and otherwise. I always have.
I just responded it wasn’t his fault, I was sorry and that I really had some soul searching to do.
OMG….I just suck. Now, I’ve hurt two people! And I never intended to hurt anyone!!
The next day Twin asked if we could talk again. He came over and was so kind and understanding. So much so, I just felt worse and worse. He asked if it was a test; was I testing him? Did I have feelings for this guy?
I don’t know, Twin. I’ve been friends with him so long, of course I have feelings for him, but I have no clue exactly what they are. I mean, I have feelings for you too. I really care so much about you and I don’t understand how this happened.
Twin talked about how he was scared of his feelings for me after all that his ex-wife had done. He talked of being in love with me and how difficult it was for him to have such strong feelings. He asked if maybe this was his fault because he wasn’t excessively demonstrative of his feelings for me.
NO! That’s not it, Twin. You’re wonderful to me! And I didn’t want to hear any of this. I just didn’t know the appropriate response.
Then Twin wants to make out…or more… or whatever! AHHH GEESH! NO, NO, NO!! WTF?! This seriously annoys me and my guilt just quadruples at my annoyance. Ughhhh….I can’t escape this disastrous mess!
Twin and I fall asleep on my sofa. I’m restless though and have weird dreams and I awake around 4 AM to him trying to kiss me again….OMFG….NOOOOOOOO!
I make excuses and grab my phone. There’s a text message from late the evening before after I had fallen asleep. It’s my friend and he has simply texted, I think you and I should be together! Or at least give it a try.
Whoaaaaaaaaa….my head starts spinning…reeling even! And Twin is right next to me, so I close the text and toss the phone aside, trying to mask my serious shock and mass confusion.
I really need Twin to leave. My thoughts, my emotions were swirling around so fast I felt like the world was turning so fast.
I knew there has always been a huge chemistry between my friend and I, from the moment we were introduced, there was electricity. We had gone on a few dates years ago even after we first met, but I was still carrying on with my ex-boyfriend (THE ex….the absolute one and only love of my life), so I was emotionally unavailable to the extreme. Thus, it never went anywhere, except to create some friction between friend and I for a while.
And since then, I’ve just never thought of dating friend. Yeah, the attraction is undeniable and perhaps I should have realized that once my vastly resilient bond to THE ex-boyfriend loosened, that this might happen. I just wasn’t thinking…..obviously. I mean clearly NOT thinking AT ALL.
GAWDDDD, what a mess I’ve made!