So I had my token woe-is-me rant/whine yesterday. I realize this becomes harder to me because I’m just hitting that place as a mother where I can’t fix everything that hurts my daughters. It’s horrible! So, as well as wishing (like she is/was too) that I had friends in this life, I found myself listening and longing for those days when there wasn’t a tear she could shed which with a little silly chicken-noodle-dance around the kitchen in our pj’s or some hugs and kisses couldn’t fix..and the tears would be gone and forgotten like they never even happened. I was the Momma…I could fix anything and everything. Now, I’m becoming the “Mom”- the powerless to help much at all. It’s a difficult transition for me and seriously, given my own lifelong issues with friendship, I did not need to go through that just to get in bed with my television tuned into whatever damned station those 4 fabulous soul-mate-chicks were on. Not right then..geesh! Anyway, other than the Momma to Mom thing, I’m over it already. It is what it’s always been. I can deal. Hell, I’ve gone through far worse than that issue and come out just fine 😉
So, on to my recent dating emails. Umm…suffice to say WOW! The pickins’ are a bit slim, yeah..but let me tell you, they are of the highest quality. Allow me to share and elaborate:
I received this priceless, informative, and endearing email from a guy with a screen name that begs to be “dominated” (yeah…literally). Hey, whatever…to each his own; it takes all kinds, right? At least it demonstrates the flair for creativity that men who enjoy submission must innately have and I did not know that about them. So it’s great to learn new things! It’s rather long, complicated, and rich in detail, so I’m just going to post it by straight-up copy and paste.
“ write me back if you want to hang
out sometime write me back if you
want to hang out sometime write me
back if you want to hang out
sometime write me back if you want
to hang out sometime “
What? You ask if I’m not concerned about email copyrights or the privacy violation of posting verbatim such a personal email here might be? No, I’m not. I think under the circumstances, I could just write him back and say, Listen b**ch, I’m posting this email on my blog and you’re just going to say thank you. I’m certain he’d get immense pleasure from that and it’s clearly the sure-fire way to keep this one’s interest.
Yeah, I’ll do that right after I share the next fabulous and unique email I received:
It looks like we’re both completely
finished with all the nonsense and are
ready for something special and genuine.
(Here he includes every contact info the man might have . Personal email address, messenger ID, and cell number)
Thank you and all the best.
Well Wow-ZA! It seems this guy really “gets me” and is obviously seeking something real and meaningful in the midst of a plethora of online dating b.s. I’m sure it’s mere coincidence that he bears the name of “Steve”. With such an insightful and beautiful reach-out to me as this, he could in no way share any commonalities with the Grope-y Groperton-Steve! This one is a real gem…
However, I think it’s important to mention here that in no place or shape of imagination do I include anything of anything on my page pertaining to “nonsense” of any kind…dating or otherwise. I mean, I don’t have a shred of anything like that on my page! My page simply says something along the lines of,
Hi, I’m Kay! I’m new to online dating and new to this area, mostly hoping to meet new people and make friends. If something more comes from that, then fantastic, but I’m perfectly okay if it doesn’t too. Simply meeting new people is a fantastic learning experience and loads of fun!! Life is short and wondrous…I don’t waste time dwelling on negatives. I enjoy many activities…blah, blah, blah…and so on…
Okay…so here’s my Sherlock deduction from “Steve’s” email. It’s a copy and paste that he sends to anyone and everyone he writes on the site! This is an easy figure for a few reasons: 1. His email does not pertain to a single thing from my page. In fact, it borders on the “opposite” of anything I actually say about myself, dating, or life in general! However (2.) I’ve noticed that a great deal of people on that site take up the majority of their page saying things like “sick of the b.s., tired of the games, do NOT respond to me IF blah, blah, blah…”; i.e. pretty much listing every hurt or disappointment they’ve experienced in life since the age of two and how they DON’T want any more of that.
I happen to know this is a very common theme on there because I weed out possible interests by that alone… because (and I reiterate a summation of my page here) I “don’t dwell in negativity or focus on what I don’t want in dating or people, but rather what I do like and what I enjoy about life and people…
I’d venture though, that this “stock” response sent in masses to attractive photos really grabs the interest of a great deal of women with minimum effort on Steve’s part. Hell, I feel confident that he didn’t even read my page… But, I give kudos to Steve for upping his positive responses/ ratio odds by merely limiting his time and effort and focusing on the really important part: writing to mass volumes of attractive photos, while simultaneously throwing something “sensitive and personal” in them that a majority of jaded-dating women will probably think that he not only actually read their page, but mistakenly also probably think to themselves, “Awwwwww..,Steve really ‘gets it’”!
More responses + less effort = better odds for insensitive-non-committed-lazy ass Steve! That’s genius!! GO STEVE-RACER…GO!
I also made notice of another interesting facet of the online dating thing: Three or four (yeah, THAT many!) guys who have written me in the past few days, have since deleted their profiles before I even had the chance to read the emails to me. Wtf?! I don’t know about you, but that screams, “Most likely MARRIED and got BUSTED” to me…or something along those lines. How does that time frame even work? He’s “single and looking..browsing profiles..emailing…lets chat, date, or email” whatever… and then within 48 hours of that, he’s either totally lost interest in dating at all or found someone he really likes…??? What?! Nahhh…ummmmm…I don’t think so…